For over 30 years, Clarence and Brenda have conducted marriage, discipleship, men‘s, women’s, and singles’ seminars internationally. They speak for Family Life’s Weekend Marriage Getaway Conferences. Clarence assisted the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services with its National African American Healthy Marriage Initiative. He’s certified in Marriage Education for Professional Training. He speaks for “Iron Sharpens Iron” and for the “National Football League Chapels.” As a Life/Relationship Coach, Clarence helps executives experience fulfillment in their personal and professional lives. He’s authored six books.
Saving One Marriage At A Time
While single, Clarence saw a need to begin conducting marriage seminars. His wife, Brenda, who was his girlfriend at the time thought this idea was bizarre. He taught dating and married couples about commitment, respect, and fundamental biblical truths concerning relationships. When he and Brenda were married, he asked her to join him in marriage ministry. Reluctantly, she tested these new waters, and he’s grateful to God she did.
Over the years, God has continued to grow BLR Ministry, says Clarence. We travel the world, preaching and teaching at hundreds of events, partnering with prominent ministries, discipling singles, couples, and impacting thousands of marriages. For more than 32 years, we have been doing marriage ministry, and it has been well worth it. Recently, while at a restaurant, a woman approached me and hugged me. She thanked me for saving her daughter’s marriage – an affair had occurred. She said, while pointing at her grandchildren, “You helped these children from experiencing the pain of a divorce. You saved their lives too!” That moment was priceless! Moments like these have consistently happened over the years. It’s not only about saving a marriage but about impacting a family for future generations/ This is the ministry God has called us to. Nothing is more of a Blessing and more fun than doing this ministry with my wife!
3 Ways To Build A Lasting Relationship
1) Communicate, assume nothing, and talk about everything.”
2) “Praying together as a couple daily lowers your chance of divorce to 1 out 10,000 couples. Praying together provides security for your spouse (yes, men like security too), bonds you closer together, gives you more patience with each other, builds oneness between you, lessen conflict, sets a safe tone & zone in your home. And a praying couple blesses your children (if you have them.) I’m suggesting praying together 5-7 minutes each day. Pray for your marriage, children (future children), finances, in-laws and outlaws, your job, or whatever is a pressing need.
3) “If you want to have great sex within your marriage, you must be connected emotionally, intellectually, socially, and spiritually. The physical act of sex is meant to be a celebration of these connections, which is why a one-night stand can never compare to the sex had by couples with the connections mentioned above, and those who are praying consistently together.
Brenda Shuler | Working with LIFE NETWORK Pregnancy Clinic
Over a decade ago years ago, I walked into Life Network knowing nothing about post-abortion, but I had a deep conviction to share what God says about forgiveness and His love. Abortion impacts families and relationships. Many people, men and women, are filled with constant guilt and shame. They feel like God will not forgive them for what they have done, and they can’t forgive themselves. They feel abortion is an unpardonable sin, in a category of its own. They feel unworthy of love and acceptance. They believe their value as a person has diminished because of what they’ve done. It is hard for them to hear the truth that God loves them and can forgive them. Many know this in their head, but they don’t believe it in their hearts. The most memorable moments for me are the “aha” moments: when the light comes on, and they finally get it! Hope starts returning to them. The hours we spent in discussion and reading what God says about forgiveness and love starts becoming real and alive to them.
1 John 1:9 says, if we confess our sins, he is faithful and to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” The word all means everything. God can forgive us of all our sins. And it says right there in God’s word that He forgives. Once people accept that, it opens a whole new world to them. They begin walking in authority and truth, and the lies that were keeping them in bondage start to break down through the power of Jesus. It is an incredible opportunity to do what I do; lead people to experience God in this way.